February 18, 2010

Hard Times

Posted by Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird at 1:39 PM
So here's a question for all of you.

What has been the hardest time for you and your significant other?
How did you help each other get through it?

For Dustin and me, that time is right now. I don't have a job and we are having to do everything we can to make ends meet. It's not easy and it's been draining on us.

At this time last year we both had jobs - not the BEST jobs but we had them. We had money in savings and my checking account looked darn good. We were moving towards talking about buying a house and things looked relatively good.

Now we're having to borrow from savings and if an unexpected bill comes we scramble. It's hard and I hate it. I've been working so hard to try to find a job but no one seems to be hiring. I want to go back to school, and I'd qualify for financial aid, but I want to be working too.

Our vows didn't include "for richer or poorer" although I think they're implied. Now Dustin and I are really dealing with it. I never really thought very much about that until now.

It's really hard. And for the most part I've tried to remain optimistic. Sometimes I get sad but when I am Dustin is right there to pick me up again. And although this time right now has being incredibly trying for us I realize how lucky Dustin and I are to have each other.

6 comments:

Meghan on February 18, 2010 at 9:25 PM said...

This economy sucks for everyone! I completely understand how you feel and you're right - at least you have each other during such a stressful time!

Our rough patch came right before we were married. We were living in Chicago, but working 90 miles apart. In order to save money for the wedding, I moved home for 10 months and Mike moved in with a co-worker. It was SO strange to live apart after living together for 3 years - there were definitely rough days! But, when I look back on it, it was the best move ever - helped us pay for the wedding, saved us both the stress of a commute to work, and we appreciated our time together even more. I am sure there is a silver lining to your situation, too!

my name is lauren. on February 18, 2010 at 9:36 PM said...

our roughest patch came at the beginning when we were first getting used to each other (having never lived together). we pretty much wanted to kill each other the first month. it was pretty bad.

sorry about the job/financial sitch. the economy is crap right now, but hopefully something will work out soon.

at least you've got a good man to stand by you "for richer or for poorer" (even if it wasn't in the vows!)

xoxoKrysten on February 18, 2010 at 11:04 PM said...

Oh Lauren, I remember those days! When D and I moved in together I figured it would be so easy, especially since we'd spent nights together. What I didn't know what that spending a night or two together is WAY different than LIVING together. And I can't even imagine what it must have been like to wait till you got married to move in together - I'm pretty sure all that change would have had D and my at each other's throats!

bluewhitelife on February 19, 2010 at 8:04 AM said...

We're in the same boat here (although I FINALLY have an interview on Monday...*fingers crossed*) It definitely seems like no one is hiring - I didn't even get an interview at Target! :)

J and I are pretty optimistic despite things, but we know I need a job so we can stay out of the red. I think our worst uncomfortable moments were when we were talking about our respective health probs, but we got through it and we're both dang healthy now :)

Cheryl on February 20, 2010 at 11:44 AM said...

This post totally hit home. I was laid off in January, and while Hubby and I have gone through our share of "junk" in our four years of marriage, this has been the most difficult time for us and between us thus far. I'm just grateful that I have a great guy who loves and supports me no matter what happens in life. I hope everything works out for you, Krysten.

Elle on February 27, 2010 at 11:14 AM said...

Our rough patch started 8 months before we got married when my sister was murdered. About a month later, DH's grandpa died. A month after that we had a dryer fire in our rental townhouse and had to live in a hotel for a month. Within a few weeks of returning home, my grandma passed away. To top it all off, we were planning our wedding. To say that we were both stressed, exhausted, and pushed to the brink is an understatement.

It was an absolutely brutal time. I would say communication is what kept us going. We were always very open and honest with each other about what we were feeling and what we need. And, thankfully, when one of us was down, the other was up, and vice versa. I think lending support to your partner, and accepting their support is very, very important too.

 

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