But simply stated, I love weddings.
When I was planning my wedding, my mother's advice was, "As long as people can eat, drink and dance, no one cares about the details." And quite honestly, I think she's right. I do believe that 95% of guests at weddings have a difficult time recalling the type of flowers in the bouquet or the font used to write the placecards. However, even before getting engaged, I was always in that 5% bracket. I love the little details and truly appreciate my surroundings when I attend a wedding. So, when I got engaged, I had it all mapped out in my head, thinking that my fiance would let me run the show. Tier of cupcakes? Check. A navy and fuchsia color scheme? Check.
Boy, was I wrong.
Mike, my hubby, is not your average bear. He has quite the eye for creativity and design. He is a photographer/web designer, cooks gourmet meals, can sew everything from buttons to pillowcases, and has a passion for music.
He's basically the domestic goddess in this marriage.
From day one, he had a hand in all of our planning, and while we disagreed and disagreed some more, when I look back, I am grateful that he cared so much. Our wedding was beautiful, and I DID get my tier of cupcakes after all. But Mikey? He wanted tuxedos with bowties. SANDALS instead of the standard tuxedo shoe (those of you who know my husband personally probably aren't surprised by this, as the man would probably go barefoot all year round if he could). Scarves with the tuxes (He said this was very Clooney-esque, I said it's the middle of freaking July).
While I nixed the above ideas, he DID get to select the playlist, help design the invitations, AND create our "In lieu of favors" placards.
And he did it all without a bowtie, scarf or sandals and looked damn fine doing so:) And I got my cupcakes.
For those of you who are married, how involved was your husband in the planning??? If you aren't yet married, is there anything that is a "must-have" for your special day??? Give me something to daydream about!
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Dustin was one of those "Yeah honey, sounds good" grooms. The only thing he really cared about was that we wrote our own vows, the got to help with the DJ playlist and that he get to pick out the tuxes all by himself without any of my input.
I was most scared about the tuxes because I had no idea what they'd look like till the day of. I'm a total control freak so not getting to give input on that freaked me out. But if you look at our wedding pics the boys all looked snazzy.
Dustin tends to be really laid back and he likes to have a good time. I know if I had suggested anything totally bizarre he would have put his foot down but we mostly agreed on everything.
Oh, except he wanted to do the Dollar Dance. And I put my foot down there. As nice as the extra money would be I just could not ask my side to do that. No way.
J will be involved to some degree. As for must-have, I just want good food. And J says we're not allowed to charge people for soda (yes, we've paid for soda at a wedding before...it was disastrous) We're not too picky but that might change if we were actually planning - we're still in the "let's take notes on everyone else's bad weddings...." stage. :)
My husband wisely let me plan the wedding;) He had 2 things to do, that was his own clothes and arranging the transport, he did that very well, but I loved arranging everything else, I'm also in the 5% that remember all the details. I loved having over a year to plan everything, and the day turned out great, better than we both imagined.
Congratulations Lauren!
We're still in the initial planning stages, and so far, my FI's been pretty vocal about what he would like and what he wouldn't like. Thankfully, most of the time our opinions/thoughts coincide pretty well, but on occasion, we end up butting heads about what we want. Like, tan suits (my pref) versus black tuxes (his pref). So far, so good (or not too disasterous), lol...
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