April 21, 2010

Formspring Responses: Meghan

Posted by Meghan at 4:35 PM
The lovely Krysten passed along your Formspring questions. Thanks for playing along, ladies! And hello to all of our new and lovely followers! I wish we could send you all presents filled with love and rainbows and sparkles.

Anyway, we thought it might be interesting to each take a stab at your questions, so here are my responses. Keep in mind that I am certainly no expert, and these are all merely my humble little opinions!

What would you do if you found out your husband had a made up online identity that he was using to flirt with other women and was getting off from this experience?

Umm, wow. I don't know how I'd respond! Chop off his cajones? Cry? Counseling? While there are a lot of factors here - the fact that he had to create an identity to fulfill a need indicates, in my opinion, a lack of self-esteem on his part. I hate when I hear about situations like this, because the wife/girlfriend is always left feeling inadequate or feels like they are to blame - when really, it's all about the men and their own issues.

How much would you charge for advertising/sponsors?

Of all the wives, I am the least qualified to answer this question. I don't even have sponsors on my personal blog, so I will divert this to Krysten and the Lauren's!

Can people apply to be regulars on The Wife Diaries?

Another great question! I think we're all still trying to figure out the direction we want TWD to take, and this is a fantastic idea to consider!

How long have each of you been married and what do each of your think is the ONE main key to a successful marriage??

I have been married for 9 months now, but I have lived with my husband for almost 4 years. If I had to choose one key ingredient to a successful marriage - it's to TALK! Whenever I am feeling stressed or frustrated, the best thing I can do is talk it out with my husband. He helps me see things from a different perspective, and I am not stuck wandering around with bottled up emotions.

I have not felt like 'makin' woopie' :) with my hub for a while now. We are both quite busy (though more he than I) and when it comes down to it I just don't feel like it. Am I the only one who feels like this? What have you done in a situation like this?

We live in such a fast-paced world that you'd be hard pressed NOT to find someone who has been in this situation, in my opinion. My job in particular eats up 12-13 hours of my day, so I know easy it is to come home, eat dinner, watch TV and fall asleep before 9:00! But even when you don't feel like it, I think it's important to take the time to get to know your husband in the biblical sense:) Hey, if you have to schedule it in, then do it! It will help "re-train" your brain...and other parts of the body!

How do you handle when someone from your husband's past comes back around...even if it is just a "friend" that may have been a little more than a friend at one point? Do you allow it? Do you have a hissy fit and say no way!! or what??

Umm, this question was made for me:) My husband's best friend is a female. When I first met her, I was so intimidated - she is smart, witty and full of style. It took me YEARS to adjust to her presence in his life. I think a lot of it had to do with a lack of confidence - once I felt confident in myself and our relationship, she slowly became a friend - now we travel, chat, shop, etc. I think in those situations it's best to remind yourself why you love your husband and remember that he chose you! Definitely communicate these concerns to him as well!

What was your favorite thing about your wedding?

The dance party that ensued when Toto's "Africa" was played? My sister's 7 minute maid of honor speech? Seeing my husband for the first time? The fact that he FORGOT TO TURN OFF HIS BLACKBERRY during our mass??? But honestly, my favorite thing about our wedding was that it was so US - everything that happened and everything we planned was very much "us" and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

What are your favorite weekend things to do with your hubby?

Our Friday nights are usually quiet and consist of a home-cooked meal (made by the hubs) and catching up on our favorite shows. On Saturday mornings, after I run and he works, we reconvene for coffee and work together to clean and do laundry. Saturday nights are usually spent out with friends, but Sundays are "our" days - he cooks a nice breakfast and we watch movies, drink tea and snuggle:) Unless I have to go to a bridal or baby shower (BOO!). Seriously, it's mating season!!!

Now that you're married, what's next?

Umm, it's 5:00, so dinner? Just kidding:) I don't know what's next. You can always map out your life but it tends to throw you for a loop sometimes. What I do know is that we want to travel, buy a loft in the city, and have a kid or two. Hopefully in that order!

Are you and your hubs looking for the same thing in a house? or even with baby making? How do you resolve any differences?

See above:) We definitely want to stay in the city and purchase a loft - we love very open, contemporary spaces and we love living in a major city, so this is a big dream of ours. As for kids - we have both gone back and forth on our own time - at first, he wasn't too excited about little bambinos and I was, and now he is a little more excited than I am. Ideally, we'd prefer to wait a few years - and hopefully, when that time comes, we agree on names. Seriously, I ask him every single day to consider a certain name:)

How did you get so many followers?

I think it's because we're really, really ridiculously good-looking:) Seriously, I have no idea, but I am so happy you have all decided to follow along!


webb on April 21, 2010 at 7:09 PM said...

He chose YOU. That's the bottom line. If a wife is jealous of every "past" (or even present) woman in her man's life, it can only lead to problems, problems, problems. He chose you. 'nuff said.

Anastasia on April 22, 2010 at 1:21 PM said...

obviously its because you guys are so good looking ;)

really great, honest answers.

Salt on April 22, 2010 at 1:56 PM said...

Awesome responses, lady!!! This was so much fun!

ModernMom on April 23, 2010 at 12:42 PM said...

Great responses ladies! Wonderful to get to know more about all of you:)


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